Bikes, Penguins, Acrobats, and Fire

     I look forward to the state fair every year. It is my favorite summer activity and the only time I'm willing to brave the heat without complaint. In previous years I've gone multiple times so that the kids could enjoy it without hating me for dragging them through all the boring stuff too. The first

week it was open I took my two youngest as the older children were at their mothers and unable to come with me. My oldest-middle child, Bear, texted me all the while asking me to share pictures and helping pick things with us that he would enjoy to see when we came back. That day, my daughter (the one who hates the fair the most) begged me to stay late because she was enjoying herself so much and wanted to watch a horse show. We went home at 8:30pm, and hour past her bedtime, happy and with a list of fun things to share with her brothers the next week.

     The week leading up to our second visit was hard. The transition was no smooth and adult issues were plaguing my normal happy self so much that I wanted to cancel the trip more than anything. Normally, no one likes it that much anyway. Before I could announce that plans changed Bear asked if we were still going and shared his excitement to watch the BMX bikes like the video I had sent him the previous week.

     As adults do, I sucked it up in the best interest of the kids, packed the lunches and gear, and loaded the car with happy kids. The first few hours of the day felt like this all might have been a mistake as clearly my oldest was annoyed and no one was having any real fun.

     We were at the state fair, one of my favorite places, but I was struggling. Plans were not working like I had expected, shows we wanted to watch were cut short making them less than what I had promised to eager eyes, preschooler cousins were not getting along...

     We watched a drum line that the oldest seemed to like and the youngest cousins loved to dance to, but then the show got weird and too loud and the enjoyment just seconds before got forgotten.

     We found play areas for the preschoolers to get their energy out, but that left the oldest teens bored and annoyed and the shaky internet service in the buildings.

     We made it to the BMX show where adults repeatedly stood in front of us and my mother reached her point of can't handle the fair anymore and left.

     We had a show planned that was done by the sheriff K9 unit that sounded exciting, but what we didn't know is before the dogs came out, there was 45 minutes of a guy explaining how an injured horse would be pulled off a trail, interesting information, but not to kids expecting dogs. When the K9's finally came out we were all happy we waited but the little people had gotten on every last nerve of the teenagers.

     We dragged on until around 4 when my husband volunteered to pick up anyone who wanted to leave. My daughter and oldest son eagerly volunteered, but not Bear. He wanted to spend the whole day with me no matter what! I feel like that moment helped bring back life to my soul. Even with the failed shows, and fighting kids, and typical California heat he was not deterred from making the most of this day and was excited to spend it with me.

     Some short time later as we were planning on what funnel cake to eat my husband arrived to take away those not happy with the heat. The oldest almost couldn't leave fast enough he was so done with the little people. My daughter had a change of heart and promised she would not fight or complain the rest of the night no matter what. My youngest made a similar promise just so he could stay with me and not have to go home without me. With everyone's decisions made I sent the oldest solo with his cell phone, to meet his Dad outside the fair so they could go home and get some one on one time together.

     Turns out after funnel cake there was a penguin high diving show that everyone wanted to watch near by so we stayed for that. Our cousins couldn't make it past that show due to their own teen angst so we bid them a good evening and headed to the Chinese acrobats we loved so much last week, stopping for BBQ corn on the way. When I told my little ones we were getting corn no one was happy but after it cooled off my Bear had the same look of happy shock he wore most the day as he told me it was the best corn he's ever had in his life.

     As we headed on he begged me to take him shopping for something even though he had no idea what so I explained to him, just as I do with my daughter, that we do not go shopping just for the sake of spending money. Normally this line of conversation would have made him made, but instead we were able to discuss how we were able to do two full fair outings with close parking and not our normal long walk in, not on kids free day so there were less holy terrors around, and enjoy 2 funnel cakes, 1 BBQ corn, and 1 large fresh lemonade all for about $70 for our family of 6 (even though the 6th person never came) thus leaving that money in our pockets for popcorn at the movies, the swim passes we got this year, and the bowling trips we've done. For one of the first times ever I felt this conversation with him meant something. Money, is one of those places, that he and I see differently and normally makes him mad.

     We pet the sturgeons, checked out the animals and the farm, then walked around some more before heading back to watch the penguins a second time for the promised flaming high dive. It sounded truly terrifying but Bear was so excited to see it and as before the show did not disappoint.

     There was another show later in the evening (8:45pm) that appeared to be fire dancers but had no description and could have been terrible. Again, as a group, with Bear voicing the loudest, we decided to stay and even if the show was bad it'd still be fun hanging out together. Turns out Obsidian Butterfly was actually pretty awesome. It was 3 fire dancers who used various things from fans, to poi balls, to sticks to light on fire and dance with. We had front row seats. With every spectacular stunt Bear would look back at me in amazement almost as if he was making sure his own eyes hadn't lied to him. He did this multiple times with every show, but I realized it was him sharing this moment with me, even if we were not side by side.



     After the dancing was finished we finally headed outside the gates to leave, where we instead hung out with the California letters taking pictures before finally getting to our car. It was hours past bed time but no one was grumpy. It was, without a doubt, the best fair experience I've had in the decade I've been going with my family.

note: there were 2 teenagers in our party and 3 adults. I don't make it a habit to photograph adults on these trips unless it's a group shot as usually they are just tending to little people, eating, or for those brief seconds relaxing.... as for the teenagers, thankfully there were 2 so they hung out in the back of our group on their phone and yoyo (each kids favorite item) making whatever they could of their time together. All the group shots I invited everyone into... just the 3 youngest volunteered.